Sixteen years ago when I first trained to become a certified Sydney Life Coach, I remember the trainer explaining the concept of gratitude and the frequency of words. The benefits of gratitude are well-researched and science is now proving that people who practice gratitude experience more loving, forgiving and optimistic lives. In addition, grateful people report fewer illnesses and experience a higher sense of overall wellbeing.

However, I also remember struggling to find that actual feeling of gratitude in my body. To be honest, it wasn’t that I didn’t have anything to feel grateful about, it was simply that the word gratitude didn’t feel that good to me! As a result, although I tried to regularly practice an attitude of gratitude – it did feel like hard work and a struggle.

Fast forward a few years and I began studying the teachings of Abraham Hicks. In his teachings, Abraham talks about the frequency of words and how different words hold different frequencies e.g. the word Anger has a lower vibration that the word Joyful. (Please also see the work of Dr. Masaru Emoto).

This really resonated with me and I began to play with what words personally held a higher frequency for me. Higher frequency words are simply words which feel good to me and / or I experience positive emotion when I think about them.

In his teachings, Abraham also speaks about the use of the word appreciation as a replacement for the word Gratitude. The good news is that I found it far more natural and easy for me to tap in feelings of appreciation and as a result, I now have an appreciation journal now rather than a gratitude journal!

The point I am trying to make here is not only do words hold different vibrations, but each word may hold a different vibration depending on the beliefs and experiences of the person saying it.

This is a really important concept for me to use when working with my coaching clients.

For example, I was recently working with a client who wanted to increase the amount of happiness in her life. However, for her personally, the word happiness held a low vibration as she often felt it was something she didn’t deserve and felt happiness was always something just out of her reach. However, when finding a replacement for the word happiness, we discovered the word  Wellbeing held a higher frequency for this particular client.

The good news that this simple change for word began a far easier process for my client to being open to receiving large amounts of Wellbeing in her life!

Think about some of the words that you use – how do they feel when you use them? Remember, the law of attraction is not responding to your words – it is responding to the feeling about the word. This week why not choose words which make you feel good and resonate with you?


Lisa Phillips is a Sydney Life and Confidence Coach. Lisa is also the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ and is a popular public speaker. For more information, please see and