A blog by Life and Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips. Lisa is based in Sydney but also provides phone and Skype coaching to clients around the world.
Society urges us to work hard and take lots of action in order to achieve what we want. Even the media and Facebook posts are filled with comments about working hard in order to achieve our goals. To be honest, I have removed these from my Facebook feed as I am fed up of seeing them!
Many Life and Business Coaches are also still using this model to motivate clients to achieve their goals. Many set action steps that must be completed in a timely manner with the promise that they will achieve the desired outcome whether it is in the area of weight, emotional happiness, a career or financial goal.
While this method can be successful, the journey to success is often bumpy, with clients losing motivation, feeling anxious or giving up on the goal entirely. For those who do ultimately succeed, it can be more about determination, struggle and hard work than actually enjoying the process itself.
In today’s blog, I am going to share with you the different between taking action and taking inspired action.
The main difference is simple – Inspired Action will always feel good to you whereas taking forced action can feel like an uphill struggle as you work hard to achieve what you want.
I recently worked with a Personal Coaching client who after several months of unemployment, was getting disheartened at the lack of progress she was making. She had sent out numerous resumes, updated her linked in profile and as yet, had not even been offered a job interview. Despite her enthusiasm and motivation slipping, she still sat at her computer for several hours a day sending out applications for jobs. Every day she became more anxious and the main emotions she felt were that of hopelessness and frustration.
My advice to her during coaching was to stop taking action. In fact, I advised her to stop sending out her resume and to go out and have some fun instead. The only ‘action’ step that we set was to spend 10 minutes a day building up enthusiasm and excitement for the great job that was coming her way. This involved sitting down and focussing positive emotion on how good it would feel when she got the job and also, all the reasons why she wanted it. We also agreed that she would only take action when she felt enthusiasm to do so. No more struggling in front of the PC or forcing herself to search the job internet sites.
The good news is that within 2 weeks, my personal life coaching client was offered the job she had always desired. No struggle was required and no hard work.
In fact, my client only took inspired action which was to follow the enthusiasm she felt for attending a local networking event. In doing so, she met a contact who was looking to fill a role that my client was perfect for. She was then offered the job after only one interview.
Many of you reading this will explain this as just being ‘good luck’ or that her hard work eventually paid off.
However, what really happened is that my client shifted her energy about her career from an upstream struggle to a downstream feel good experience. In doing so, she became in alignment with the job she desired rather than ‘pushing it away’.
To quote the works of Abraham Hicks:
‘When you feel enthusiasm to do something, it means you’ve lined up with the energy, and you are being inspired to take action from that point of alignment. Whether you do feel like doing anything don’t push yourself because you effort is not worth it. But, when you line up with the energy, the feeling of procrastination goes away.‘
As with all my work, I urge you to only do what you need to do from a space of feeling good. There are numerous ways to make this work for you but in doing so, you will attract far more of what you want in your life than struggling uphill or forcing yourself to do tasks you do not enjoy.
Lisa Phillips is a Sydney based Life and Confidence Coach. Lisa appears regularly in the media, is a popular public speaker and the author of ‘The Confidence Coach‘ book. For more information please see www.amazingcoahing.com.au