Are you always pointing the blame finger? Do you end up blaming everyone else for all the issues in your life?  Is it always someone else’s FAULT?

This may not be the news you were waiting to hear but YOU alone are responsible for what is happening in your life right now! 

Take a minute to read that again and let the words to really sink in.  

You are the Only Person who is Responsible for Your Life.

Yes, I do mean what I say, YOU alone are responsible, not your parents, your partner, your boss or your kids!

In all situations in life, you  have the power and the choice to react in a way that serves you.  Or you have the choice to point the blame finger at someone else.  

Ok, there may be some forces which are clearly out of your control but even then, it is 100% up to you how you react.    The truth is, as humans, we often get into the bad habit of pointing the blame finger at circumstances or other people for our own unhappiness.

We Give Our Power Away when we Blame Others

We give our power away when we complain to our friends (or anyone who listens) about how other people stop us from being happy or how much misery they cause us.    We point the blame finger at our partners for unhappy relationships . We say it is our parents fault that we have no confidence.   We blame our lives for being too busy or our boss for not recognising the hard work we do.   

Every time we point the blame finger at other people, we give away our power .  More importantly, we fail to take responsibility for our own wellbeing, confidence and happiness. 

Be Honest with Yourself

Be honest with yourself – will blaming other people change things?  Have you just got in the habit of giving away your power rather than doing something about it?  Does pointing the blame finger really help the situation? NO!  In blaming others, all you are doing is setting yourself up for more misery and keeping yourself stuck in old patterns.

In truth,  consistently pointing the blame finger often becomes an excuse for not taking action or resolving the situation ourselves.  

So this week, if something is not working in your life, reclaim your power and take responsibility for your own life.  

You Always Have a Choice

In every situation in life, we always have three choices: 

  1. Accept it
  2. Change it or
  3. Walk away from it!

For example, if you don’t enjoy your job or feel you are not earning enough money, take responsibility and do something about it. Speak with your boss or update your CV and go out job searching! If you are not happy in your relationship, speak to your partner and if you are still unhappy – let them go and move on!

An Exercise to Take Responsibility for Your Life

Try this exercise:
• Where in your life are you laying blame?
• Who have you given your power to in this situation?
• What are the consequences of laying blame in this situation?
• What specifically do you need to do to take responsibility in this situation right now?

So the next time you find yourself  pointing the blame at someone , take back your power and ask yourself what you can do to take responsibility! 

Sydney Life Coaching with Lisa Phillips

With over 20 years experience as Life Coach and Confidence Coach,  Lisa Phillips is one of Sydney’s most experienced and qualified Life Coaches.     She is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach‘ and her expertise is regularly featured in the Australian Media.  

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The Sydney Life Coach Lisa Phillips is the Current Life Coaching expert on The Love Destination TV.