Managing Stress (Before it Manages You)
In the 16 years I have been working as an International Professional Speaker, Life and Confidence Coach, the topic of stress and how to deal with it is still a favourite with all of my clients.
In fact, this month I recently ran a series of workshops on the Celebrity Cruises and it was the topic which ended up being standing room only!
So why, despite all the technology and theories we have available to us, is the topic of Stress Management still a hot topic? Even the word stress is thrown into many conversations or complaints regardless of whether it is at home, in the office or dealing with friends and family.
During my workshops, I often share with my audience a few home truths about the topic of stress. These are as follows:
1) Stress is not going away in our lives.
2) You can’t control stress in other people.
3) We cause our own stress in life!
4) You can’t change the stress, but you can change the way you react to it.
Stop for a minute and ask yourself the following questions:
- If you are stuck in a traffic jam, how do you react?
- If you make a mistake, how do you react?
- If you believe someone doesn’t like you, how do you react?
- If your train or bus is late, how do you react?
The truth is that we cause our own stress in the way that we react to situations. Take note of your reactions the next time you are sitting in a traffic jam or perhaps you are running late for an appointment. How do you choose to react? Do you relax and soothe yourself with kind words telling yourself everything is going to be ok or do you get angry and frustrated at yourself? Remember, there is always a choice so you can choose to get stressed or you can choose to do or think something that will soothe the stress.
In all my teachings I talk about the importance of caring about how you feel. Again, if you really cared about how you feel and your emotional wellbeing, would you choose to get angry and frustrated in a traffic jam or would you choose to make the most of it and choose not to get stressed? When you choose the latter, your body will thank you for it and you never know, you may even enjoy those extra few minutes sitting in traffic!
Lisa Phillips is a Sydney based Life and Confidence Coach. She is also a popular speaker and the author of The Confidence Coach. To find out more, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au