Let it go!
Go on – Make a commitment to Let it go!
I see it every week in my work as a Sydney Life Coach – So many of us are still carrying painful hurts, resentments and pain from many years ago – some of us even decades ago!
We share and discuss these past hurts to anyone who will listen, using our past hurts and experiences as an excuse for the way we behave now. We defend our past pains, justify them as a reason for our existence and blame other people around us for our current situation.
Many of us also use these hurts as a reason to justify why we can’t move on in our lives or why we are feeling stuck or resentful. For some of us it is like wearing a ‘ Poor Me’ badge of honour.
Many of us are still blaming other people for our hurts and don’t want to let them go !
This leaves us tied to the Past
When we choose to do this, we are literally tied to our past and our pain every day of the year. Stop for a few minutes and look at your own past. What has happened to you in the past that still impacts your behaviour today? Did you receive criticism from people around you so you still continue to criticise yourself today? Do you keep yourself small because someone in your past put you down? Are you still blaming other people for your lack of confidence, self esteem or self worth? Did you have a partner who hurt you in the past so now you refuse to step into relationships with an open heart? Did you have a business or a career that didn’t go as well as expected so you refuse to try anymore?
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that each and every one of your past hurts were not real nor am I saying that they didn’t hurt you greatly. However, think about it, how much longer are you willing to stay a victim of your past and allow it to dictate your future? Is it time to let it go!
It is not about Forgiveness
This is not about forgiving the people who may have hurt you – this is about deciding that you will no longer hurt yourself by still being tied to that painful past experience or person. It really is about caring about how you feel enough to make a choice to empower and free yourself from those past hurts and let it go!
Your body is a great compass. Even when you think about your past hurts, you body will not feel good so how much longer do you want to feel like this? How much longer are you willing to put up with feeling bad? Let’s face it, the people who hurt you are not feeling bad and have probably already moved on and are not even aware of the pain you are still experiencing!
The key to releasing all this pain from the past is start to care more about how you feel right now. Make a commitment that your own happiness is more important than your hurts from the past.
Each day is a brand new day and you have a choice to keep living in the past or start creating a new empowered life. Remember, the law of attraction does not care about your past, it is simply reacting to the thoughts and vibration you are sending out in the current moment.
Remember, you are worthy, you are loveable, you are deserving. I promise.
With over 20 years experience, Sydney Life Coach Lisa Phillips is the author of The Confidence Coach book.
Lisa works with people all over the world assisting them with self belief, confidence, self esteem and releasing negative emotions. She has won several awards for her work and appears regularly on TV / Radio and print. For more information on how the Sydney Life Coach can help you, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au