The voice inside our heads can tell us that we are strong, capable and deserving of good things. Or it can tell us that we are stupid, incompetent, and unable to do the things needed to success. The voice inside our heads can tell us that we are beautiful and special, or it can tell us that we are ugly and undeserving of love.
The voice inside your head can determine whether you are happy or miserable, successful or struggling. Learning how to change the voice inside your head can help you to shut off the negative messages you’re sending to yourself so that you can stop getting in the way of your own success and happiness.
Changing that voice is not an easy process, but it is something that must be done if you are to find the happiness and success you desire. Here are a few tips for changing that voice inside your head:
Identify Its Source
Determine Your Goals
It is too easy for many of us to tell ourselves that we “can’t” do something. Or that we don’t deserve it. We are so used to telling ourselves that something can’t or won’t or shouldn’t happen that we start to believe it.
The next time you tell yourself these things, remind yourself of your goals. If you look in the mirror and your inner voice starts telling you that you are fat or ugly, don’t just indulge the voice. Think about what your goals are. If they are to lose weight or to exercise more, take that moment to reaffirm your commitment to those goals and make a plan to achieve them.
Determining your goals can help you to focus your thoughts into actions rather than letting yourself indulge in negative and destructive thoughts.
Is your inner voice always a critic? (That’s true for most of us, unfortunately.) Silence that critic by taking away the case of the complaint. If you are unhappy with some aspect of yourself or your life, change it. Develop solutions to attain the happiness you desire. If your inner voice tells you that you are not successful enough, develop a strategy for advancing in your career or finally opening that business you have always dreamed of.
Don’t wallow in negative thinking. Use it to help you identify the source of your unhappiness and then develop solutions to correct those problems.