Let’s be honest, life has its ups and downs. However, the amount of happiness (and achievement of your desires) you experience has a lot to do with how you personally handle life’s downturns.

Many of us, who may lack resilience skills, find that our emotions feel like having a feather inside of us. In this I mean that life tends to knock us around emotionally, depending on the conditions we are experiencing around us. It is all very well when life is going well, but when things knock you around, it is like the feather gets blown around in the wind taking your emotions on a roller coaster ride.

‘Downturns’ in life are inevitable, but you can make a choice not to hang out as a feather and instead, choose to have a rock inside of you. In this I mean that you can remain positive, stable and grounded, regardless of the conditions around you.

When Life coaching or public speaking, I use the adage of ‘What end of the stick are you holding’. I came across this while attending an Abraham Hicks cruise earlier last year.

Think about it, when life has an unexpected turn, what end of the stick do you grab onto? Is it the end of the stick that represents negative emotions such as frustration, anger, hopelessness or despair? Or do you care enough about how you feel to reach for the positive end of the stick which represents encouragement, comfort, releasing resistance and ultimately a feeling of wellbeing?

There are always two ways to look at any situation. However, there really is only one question you need to ask yourself – are you choosing the end of the stick that will feel good to you, or the end of the stick that will only bring more negative momentum?

The key is that you need to care more about how you feel and use soothing and encouraging words that help you reach for better feelings and head towards the positive end of the stick. Please refer to past blogs on www.amazingcoaching.com.au for tips on how to soothe yourself into a better feeling place.


Lisa Phillips is a Keynote Speaker, Sydney Life Coach and Confidence Coach based in Australia. Lisa is also the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ (Exile Publishing). To find out more about Lisa or to book her to speak at your event, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au or www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com.au