Don’t Let a 5 minute Conversation Ruin your day
A blog by Award Winning Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips
During our waking hours, it is inevitable that we will come across a wide range of situations, circumstances and conversations. If these are good circumstances, then the chances are they will leave us feeling positive and satisfied.
However, what about those 5 minute conversations that ruin our day or leave us feeling angry or wronged in some way? This could be a simple as:
1) Someone criticises you at Work
2) The kids leave the house in a mess ( again)
3) You don’t get the job interview you were hoping for
4) A friend makes a comment which hurts or upsets you.
The chances are, the above situation may happen over a period of seconds or minutes. However, many of us continue to feel angry or hurt at these situations for days or even weeks on end! In my role as a Sydney Life and Confidence Coach, I often assist clients who have been struggling to let these types of issues go.
There isn’t a human on this planet that hasn’t experienced hurt or some kind of emotional pain. However, it really is what you do with this hurt that is important. Do you choose to let it go or do you ruminate about it for weeks on end, feeling more resentful as time goes on?
When we continue to feel ‘ wronged’ we are often looking for someone to acknowledge that what they did was wrong. However, we may be waiting a long time! The fact is that other people may not even realise that they have hurt you and in continuing to think about it each day, you are just continuing to carry on this pain for yourself every time you think about it.
Think about it, if you really cared about your own emotional wellbeing, would you choose to release yourself from this pain and move onto into feeling good? This is not about ignoring your pain – your feelings are important and it’s good to acknowledge how you feel.
However, you always have a choice to move on and reclaim your power from any situation that is causing you negative emotion. This takes courage and the alibility to put your own wellbeing, as a priority before any grievances you may have.
You don’t have to forgive someone for your hurts, but it is an act of self care to release yourself from the pain you feel towards them. It’s about choosing to move forward each day,let go of the pain and invite more happiness into your life.
Lisa Phillips is a Sydney Life Coach and Confidence Coach. She is also the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ – Exile Publishing and a professional speaker. To find out more about Lisa, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au or to book Lisa to speak at your event, please see www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com.