Waiting to feel happy?

In today’s blog we will be chatting about Happiness. Happiness really is such a simple concept, but many of us struggle to feel good on a daily basis and are just waiting to feel happy.

Many of us are just hanging around waiting for something great to  happen to make us feel happy.

We say we WILL feel  happy when we lose that weight, make some extra cash or get a better job or feel more confident.  If we do this, we are actually stating that we can’t be happy until these things happen.

However, happiness is a choice and why not make yourself happy rather than waiting for something to happen in order to  feel happy? ? A really key thing to remember is that you cannot rely on anyone else to make you happy.

It is not your partner, kids or anyone else’s responsibility to make you happy, you must make your own happiness and your own happiness preferences, you own responsibility.

Seriously, nobody is coming to save you so if you want to shake your life up a bit and get happy then you can start by making a few simple changes to your day:

  1. What are the first words you say to yourself in the morning? Do you grunt and moan at the thought of going to work or groan that you have to get out of bed? Well, if you do, you are setting yourself up for a miserable day so why not choose to make your day a good one instead? How about declaring that you are going to have a great day and wonderful things are going to happen to you? Remember, whatever you think about you create so make sure you think happy thoughts!
  2. How about writing a list of 20 things which make you happy and doing at least one of those things a day? They don’t have to be huge expensive treats; it could just be something as simple as listening to your favourite song or grabbing a coffee with a friend.
  3. Another great happiness technique is to write a list of things you are grateful for or appreciate in your life.  Often we spend hours focusing on the things we don’t have or how we wish things were different in our lives but what about spending a little time being grateful for all that you DO HAVE in your life? What about that job which allows you to pay bills and have a roof over your head? What about your family and friends?

Finally, a word of warning. If you don’t feel like taking steps to make yourself happy, get honest with yourself and ask yourself what are you getting from staying unhappy? Do you get sympathy? Attention? Do people feel sorry for you? Do you feel you don’t deserve happiness? If so, commit to doing something different this week and take action to make lasting change.

Sydney Life and Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips is the author of The Confidence Coach. To find out more about Lisa’s work on confidence and self esteem, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au