Welcome to this week’s blog on ‘Are you a Priority in your Life‘ from the award winning Sydney Life Coach and Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips.
For many of us, being a priority in your own life is not that important. Usually, partners, kids, career and even the dog is more of a priority!
Being a Priority in Your Life
Looking after our own emotional wellbeing can quickly fall into the ‘ I haven’t got time’ basket. Most of us are programmed to spend most of our day putting everyone else before ourselves, whether it is an elderly relative, family member or friend.
The problem with that is that if we don’t take care of ourselves, sooner or later we won’t be of much use to anyone else—or to ourselves!
Putting Other Peoples Needs before our Own.
If you are one of those people who are constantly running around in frantic and in an emergency mode, your mind and body may just end up paying a high price for putting other people needs before your own.
In my Sydney Life Coaching business I still get shocked at the amount of people who come to see who are burned out. Often they are exhausted believing that everybody’s needs are more important than their own. These people often believe that self-care is selfish and may have difficulty saying No to other people.
The People Pleasers
Many of us are ‘ People Pleasers, fixers or rescuers’. When we do this we consistently put other people’s needs and wants before our own, In time, we end up feeling burned out or resentful. Now don’t get me wrong, it is important to care for others, but we also need to commit to taking care of ourselves. Remember, when your own needs are taken care of, you are much more equipped to look after other people.
How to Prioritise your Own Needs
To start being a priority in your own life, begin by changing a few small things in your day. This could include making sure you take regular breaks, eat regular meals and practise saying No to other people. Tune in to your own needs and learn to honour them as well – without feeling guilty. Aim to give up the need for perfectionism and stop setting yourself ridiculously high expectations of yourself. Aim to do your best and that is sufficient.
One of my favourite tips to prioritise your emotional wellbeing is to write a list of 20 things which make you happy and commit to doing at least one thing a day from this list. These are your happiness preferences.
Your list does not need to be full of expensive ideas. It is simply about prioritising what makes you happy. It could be simple things as burning some nice smelling candles or having a nice warm bath or treating yourself to 10 minutes relaxation time. Remember, you deserve to take care of yourself – you are worth it!
Sydney Life Coaching with Lisa Phillips