5 Tips to a Confident Body Image
1) Our first tip for a confident body image is to remember that the world is sending out flawed messages about the ‘ perfect body’ and what ‘attractive really looks like’ These messages are not solely focused towards women; men are also under scrutiny to ensure that they fit the image of the ‘ideal’ man. As a result, many of us have got into the habit of judging ourselves as less attractive and appealing than we really are. When we look in the mirror, we criticize our body and beat ourselves up for falling short of that ‘perfect’ look. We compare our looks to the images of flawlessness that appear in the media and as a result, our thoughts become focused on what is wrong with our body, rather than what is right about it. So today, if you want a more confident body image, just remind yourself that the messages society are sending out are flawed – not you.
2) The second tips for a health body image is to remember that there is so much more to people than the way they look. Remember, just because someone looks good does not make them a better or more valuable person than you. You are worthy, valuable and lovely regardless of the way you view yourself. Aim to acknowledge and respect your unique natural body shape, as nature intended it to be. Okay, you may not be a supermodel or male pin-up material but that doesn’t mean that your body shape is wrong in any way or that you are flawed or less worthy than other people. Make a decision right now to start to feel better about the way you look. You owe it to yourself to value your body.
3) The third tip for a confident body image is to start thinking more positively about who you are and what you look like. Many of us have just got used to beating ourselves up and criticising ourselves so practice some of these new thoughts to start to change the way you focus on yourself. Try these new statements and repeat them daily.
- I know that in time I can learn to feel better about the way I look.
- I know I am not perfect but hey, neither is anyone else.
- I know I am going to feel so much better when I can accept who I am, inside and out
- I am really looking forward to feeling good about my body shape.
- I may not be model material, but I have so much to offer the world.
- I know that when I start to see myself as attractive, other people will also see me as attractive.
4) When you take a good look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? Are your first thoughts about the size of your belly, the wrinkles, your bald head, the crow’s feet on your face or the size of your muffin top? Sadly, you are not alone. Most people focus primarily on the parts of their body that they don’t like, rather than the parts of their body that they may find quite acceptable. Isn’t it sad that we are experts at criticizing ourselves? It is little wonder that so many of us avoid looking in the mirror. When was the last time you looked into the mirror and actually said something nice about your reflection?
To build up a health body image, stop, take a deep breath and give yourself permission to be a little kinder to your body . Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can only do this once you have lost weight, dropped a few clothing sizes or are all dressed up for a night out. Several times a week, look into the mirror and instead of immediately being critical and focusing on an area of your body you dislike, pick out a specific part — for example, it could be your eyes, belly or your ears. Now, go on to thank this specific body part for the gifts it provides you with — for example, you could thank your eyes for helping you see, watch your favourite sporting team, read books, or help you to get to sleep each night. If you choose your belly, thank it for keeping your trousers up or assisting in the digestion of your food. The idea of this exercise is to improve your attitude about the role your body plays in your life, so don’t take this process too seriously; just have some fun coming up with different ways your body helps you.
5) Our final Tip for a confident body image is to be willing to give your body some love. Rather than looking in the mirror, this exercise is best carried out in the bath or shower. It is pretty simple: begin again by selecting a specific part of your body. This time, however, in addition to feeling grateful for all the wonderful things that this part allows you to do, you are also going to give your body some positive attention and love.
You could do this by massaging some nice shower gel into your legs or giving your arms a well-deserved blast of love caressing them with body oil. Maybe you could treat yourself to some aromatherapy oils or bath salts and allow your body to soak in them for ten minutes? You could also treat yourself to your favourite aftershave or body lotion and give your body some well-needed nourishment. There is no right or wrong way to do this, but your body will thank you for your attention.
Sydney Life Coach and Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips is the founder of Amazing Coaching. She is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach book’. To find out more about Lisa’s work, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au.